Category: Let's talk
I myself am responsible to decide whether someone is okay or not, but many are not. I was wondering how safe we all really are on here.
Yes there are plenty of perverts you can tell if they're a perverts or if they're made for friends. I myself will usually tell by the way they talk and if the ask personal questions out of the norm I usually tell them to talk about something else or either I change the subject for them by starting a new conversation. And if all they talk about is sex sex sex and nothing else besides my subject change then they'll get an ignore sign from me, that's what the ignore feature is used for and I see that works real good with them. By talking about it isn't gonna do much good and we can't ban them from the sight so you may want to consider using the ignore feature it works real good.
How safe are you? That depends on the information you give out and who you give it to. Use common sense, m'dear.
How safe? I guess it depends which perverts you're talking about. There are harmless perverts, and not so harmless perverts. Hope you can diferentiate between the two, because the harmless perverts can be a lot of fun. Well, at least I've not had any complaints so far.
exactly, sure some people who are desperate enough to come on here and give their phone number for everyone to see like 200 times in a minute because they are bored and want to be called, then no they are not safe at all, and then shouldn't come whining about perves hitting on them and stalking them because they asked for it
Okay, let me put it another way. How safe are you on the street? The street has perverts on it to, or had you forgotten that? At least in your own home, you can control who you talk to, and if you talk to them, more than you can on the street. I've only had one encounter with a pervert, but I didn't kno he was one, until I was going out with him. I dumped him, as soon as I found out, and cut him off completely.
what exactly is a pervert? I mean. to me a pervert is someone who feels on kids or has sex with children. Is talking about sex really considered to be a pervert?
I agree with the use of the ignore feature. Also, I don't really care for the public quick notes, so I have them turned off. Some folks even have private quick notes turned off, but I leave them on in case someone wants to say a quick Hi, or chat a little as I'm playing games, looking at board posts, or whatever.
Lou
Hi, all! I agree with Chelsea, you're as safe on here as you make yourself. It's you who controls what information is made public, or who you choose to give it out to. I don't think we're any more or les safe on the Zone than any other social networking site. Caution should be used, no matter where you are on the Internet. Lou, I'd say that people's definition of pervert tends to differ, so you should use your own definitions and instincts.
yep ditto to sister, chelsea and co. as far as the net goes, you are always in coltrol as you can give out as much or little information as you want. ie. giving out all your contact details -- address, phone number, etc. in your profile or whatever is just asking for trouble.
To date two people on here have posted their phone number, including 1, who offered herself for sex,that's just completely stupid.
Perversion is different for everyone. I also agree with Chelsletta.
Hi retriever dog,
I understand where you're coming from. If out of the blue, someone pms'sme, and wants to call me, i mean, on the real phone, and especially if he or she doen'st take no for an answer right away, Iwill conclude that that person is a pervert, or a weirdo at the very least, and on myignore list the person goes. I believe in as much annoymity as possible where ever I am on th enet. I go on the probably that noone on the internet can be guaranteed to be safe, so I stay as as annonymous as possible.
wonderwoman
I personally feel there are bad people everywhere. you just need to know how to weed them out of the good ones.
Well those who give their addresses and phone numbers are the ones asking for trouble. But what about the people who give out very little info then they still get stalked. Like others said and I agree, that you just have to know who and who not to talk to. That's the bottom line for me.
hmm... perverts? Well, aren't we allperverted at times? I man, where would be if there wasn't perversion?
Actually I think that it’s two separate issues.
1. are there perverts on the zone? Of course there are. As there are in all walks of life. There are always going to be people who are more “perverted” than you are, people who make suggestive remarks/comments, who ask things you’re not comfortable with etc. for those there is the ignore feature, or if you’re more bold, the ability to say piss off.
2. how safe are you on the zone? I actually think that’s an important question which extends beyond the zone to anywhere where you might talk to people over the internet. The internet is a varied place, it is full of people you wouldn’t ordinarily meet. And over the internet it is very possible to be someone you’re not, very possible to hide away the life you have in the real world, possible to make friends and say the things those friends want to hear. And it is very easy to be taken in, far easier than some of us would like to admit even, because none of us would like to admit that our judgement could let us down. But most of us have probably been taken in at least once, by someone who hasn’t told the whole truth about who they are, or who has even not told any of the truth about who they are. I know there are users on this very site, regular, well respected users, who have not divulged all details about their lives, even to those they have considered their closest friends, and who have even made up details about their lives. And this happens a lot more regularly than we would perhaps feel comfortable believing, because the internet is such an escape for so many.
Are you safe? For the most part yes, as long as you use common sense, but are you vulnerable online? I would say definitely. Unless you are the kind of person who never gives out any information to anyone, you have almost certainly given information to someone who has turned out to be a fake.
I look at it this way. I know I can be found. If someone is really that much of a weirdo, it won't take much. C'mon, my last name floats arounde the net, I know, I've seen it. Within e-mails, some zoners know my last name, some have said it on VT with others present, etc. Anyone that wants can find you quite easy. It really doesn't take much.
And I thought your last name was radio. Oh well.
In the last analysis we're all as safe as we let ourselves be. The trick is to act responsibly.
If you tell your name to one person, you might as well assume you've told the entire zone. You might think that one person could be trusted, but that's an assumption you shouldn't make hastily.
In general, though, the zone has made it easy for people to be pretty safe, with the community leaders and the ignore feature. So, don't worry about the zone or the internet, just worry about yourself and how gullible you are. And, only you can control that.
Bob
If you mean wierdos I've only met one on the Zone!
i've only met 1 as well, and yes, he was weird
and yes, i think what you put in your profile matters a lot,
not just on the zone, but on msn, aim, skipe or anywhere
if i think someone is a weirdo or a pervert, he instantly goes on my ignore list, thats not to say everyone on my ignore list is a weirdo or a pervert, I'm just saying if you are a weirdo or a pervert or I perceive you as one, you will be put on my ignore list and neer taken off.
wonderwoman
ooo. who's offering themselves for sex. no. all kidding aside. I feel bad for a lot of females on here sometimes. A number of people I've talked to feel really weird cause certain guys are all over them like white on rice. It's deffinetly a shame, but you can ignore people, andyou certainly do not have to give out details like msn or email.
Liam, you really do take the piss. You feel sorry for chicks on here, yet you're over many like a rash while you're still seeing Emily. Double standards or what?
I think that some of the people complaining about perverts, or unwanted attention from some Zoners perhaps ought to think about what they write in public quick notes. I know of several people who write pretty suggestive comments in public QN's or actively join in in suggestive convos over public QN's and on the boards, and then bitch about perverted attention from others when it starts happening privately. Now that is a double standard. You can't stand there in a public QN and give the impression to anyone reading them that you're broad minded and open to that kind of conversation, and then complain about it when it starts happening privately! That's so hipacritical!
Gosh! I totally agree with the poster before me. Be what you are here and you'll be fine. Be fake and people will assume you are that fake personallity you are on publics. Your safe retrieverdog if you want to be so. Some of the post on here gave you the tools to your personal safety. Use these and be happy